Thursday, November 5, 2009

GOOD ENOUGH NO LONGER IS / From Francis Kong Posts

 

One day inside the HR director’s office an interview was taking place.

 

INTERVIEWER: “So why did you leave your previous job?”

 

APPLICANT: “The company relocated and they did not tell me where!!!”

 

There was a time when horror stories used to begin with: "It was a dark and stormy night..." Now it begins with your boss saying, "I never wanted you to leave but..." And so you enter the house of horrors.

 

So many people are clueless to what’s going on in the business world today. And worst, a lot more people are totally clueless to what’s going on in their work lives today.

 

Don’t let this happen to you.

 

Nobody wants average these days.

 

There was a time when plain old goods and services were enough. Only a handful of people produced them and provided them. You do not question them but you consume what they have to offer. You had very little choice,

 

Today, there is a glut of productions and services as more and more products and services are added to the market place daily.

 

Nobody wants average, everyone wants what is excellent. The word “Average” today has become a dirty word as far as business and career is concerned.

 

This is why we need to start the year…in fact we need to start each day of our lives with this mindset….Today will be better than yesterday and the world will see me as a better person in all aspects of my life. Think of this year as the year that will launch you to the next level of competence. W. Somerset Maugham says it correctly: “It's a funny thing about life; “If you refuse to accept anything but the very best, you will often get it.”

 

So here are a couple of suggestions that would help you along the way.

 

1. EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED.

The only certainty in this world is that the world will continue to be more uncertain. Not everything that happens is your doing. Certain situations may be caused by external factors, and are mostly beyond your control. What is in your hands is the way you will respond to the situation. Thinking that you are a victim of circumstance will not help you one bit. Be a victor and not a victim. Spend time and energy looking for solutions, not excuses.

 

2. DEAL WITH THE UNEXPECTED.

Even the Bible says: “Faith without work is dead!”

Having a positive mindset accomplishes nothing if all you do is stay there and think about. You have to make a decision to do something and you do it. Winners see themselves achieve their goals, because not only do they just sit down and make plans; but they actually go about their plans.

Do not make grand promises and deliver things half-baked. Remove the word “failure” from your vocabulary and do not be too hard on yourself. For even if you fall short; you will use these as stepping stones to make yourself a better person that makes better choices. This is why you need to make a commitment choice. You will stay the course. You will surround yourself with like-minded people who are equally passionately committed. And you will be relentless in pursuing your goals.

 

3. APPLY RIGHT VALUES IN THE WAY YOU DEAL WITH THE UNEXPECTED.

When the unexpected happens, there is a tendency to take the path of least resistance. Don’t!!! Winners do not choose expediency over that which is truthful and right.

And when you do what is truthful and right there will be resistance. Resistance from people and resistance from widely accepted systems and so in other words, you will have enemies.

Everyone has enemies. And the more successful a person becomes, the more enemies he or she will have. The most logical and productive thing to do is to welcome them, because they are actually offshoots of success.

To be effective, surround yourself with people of similar values. You do not have to please people all the time but you do have to stick to doing right all the time.

In doing so, you will begin to earn people’s trust and respect. And pretty soon you will have the support base you need in order to get the job done.

 

4. DON’T JUST STAND THERE AND DO SOMETHING, STAND FOR SOMETHING.

Every single business decision we make defines what we are made of. The thoughts we think, the words we say and the actions we take are either building us to become better people or they are breaking us and making us less of a person that we are meant to be.

People of integrity gain people's trust.

Choosing to be a person of integrity has got to be one of the most difficult choices a person will ever have to make. More than just doing the right thing, doing the right thing when no one else is watching is much more challenging.

There is no such thing as practicing integrity moderately. And neither is there such a thing as practicing integrity only with a select group of people. You either have it or you don’t.

The integrity choice is one of the most important choices you will ever have to make in your lifetime, as this will determine each and every action, including the roads to your long-term successes.

 

There is no “time outs” as far as integrity is concerned. Guard your integrity as though it is the most important possession you have. In fact I sincerely believe it is. As long as you stand for what is right and what is true, you’ll never lose that which you have gained – the right to be the kind of person God wants you to be.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

I Hate My Job ... Just when I needed it the most....

 

You hate your job. You’re thinking of quitting.

You are not happy and you find that you have to drag yourself out of bed every morning so you can go to work. If this is your situation then today’s message is for you.

 

Having a job you hate is never easy but sometimes you just need to grin and bear it until you have another gig lined up. Here are some productive things you may want to do:

 

1. START THE DAY WITH SOMETHING POSITIVE

Your daily morning ritual is extremely important. Start with being positive by doing something positive. Go to bed early and wake up early so you will have time to start the day with quiet meditation. A word of prayer. You may want to set your alarm to play upbeat or classical music, have a wonderful sip of coffee and read a section of an inspirational book and when you improve your mornings, you will be surprised at how this can do wonders for the rest of your day. Going into a job you hate will be worse if you get to the office feeling rushed, stressed and frazzled. Set aside some moments of solitude each morning.

 

2. KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE PRIZE

It is not true that everything about your job stinks. You are not working in the sewage are you? Do not exaggerate. There will always be something out there in your work life that will make you happy. So make weekly goals to help you achieve those goals.

But be careful with your daily goals too. Do one thing each day to help you reach your goals. Do not be too obsessed with crossing all your items off your “To-do-list” every day because this will frustrate you.

Sometimes it is easier to make it to 5 o’clock when you can keep your eye on the prize.

When you get up in the morning, set a daily objective for yourself and make sure you achieve it. This will give you a sense of accomplishment and keep you feeling good about your progress.

 

3. DEVELOP YOUR SKILLS.

You may not love your job for the moment but do not rot. Use your time to learn new skills. This way you are putting in you more value and worth and preparing yourself to be a better candidate down the road. Attend your company training courses, learn something new on your computer. Read books. Listen to tapes during lunch. Turn this job that you hate into an opportunity for personal growth and improvement.

 

4. EXERCISE.

Your problems and challenges become bigger than life when you are weak and unhealthy. So go to the gym. Run. Take a nice long walk. Put these activities in your schedule so that will have something to look forward to every day.

 

5. CELEBRATE

Fine little ways of treating yourself. Celebrate your victories. You beat the deadline. Your boss compliments you. Find out what makes you feel better inside, no matter what is going on outside. Plan out your next vacation. Join a small group. I know so many young people who are involved with Bible study groups and they really look forward to their weekly meetings. I guess here they all meet together and pray that God be merciful with their bosses. (joke….don’t take me seriously here…..)

 

6. IMPROVE YOUR PERFORMANCE

It doesn’t matter whether you like your job or you hate it. You must make it your goal to go to the next level and excel in what you do. Never for a moment think that just because you are employed you are working for somebody else. Your current accomplishments will be your equipment in future opportunities.

 

7. ALWAYS BE POSITIVE

Do not let your unhappiness in your job destroy your relationship with people. Maintain your contacts and keep your relationships positive. And this included the boss you love to hate. Realize that this too shall pass. Keep your chin up and be a professional.

If you are faithful in the small things then big things are bound to come.

Helen Keller says: “Keep your face in the sunshine and you can never see the shadow.”

Believe me, there is sunshine even in your cubicle.

 

And by the way, attend my seminars too.

 

Francis Kong

Friday, September 4, 2009

To All my Friends....

 1.To My Friends Who Are...........SINGLE

Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts, but love's only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.

2.To My Friends Who Are............NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn't about becoming somebody else's "perfect person." It's about finding someone
who helps you become the best person you can be.

3.To My Friends Who Are............PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE
Never say "I love you"
if you don't care. Never talk about feelings if they aren't there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart. Never look in the eye when all you do is lie. The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn't intend to catch her fall and it works both ways...

4.To My Friends Who Are............MARRIED
Love is not about "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry." Not "where are you", but "I'm right here." Not "how could you", but "I understand." Not "I wish you were", but "I'm thankful you are."

5.To My Friends Who Are............ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.

6.To My Friends Who Are............HEARTBROKEN Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go. The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.

7.To My Friends Who Are............NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.


8.To My Friends Who Are............POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.


9.To My Friends Who Are............AFRAID TO CONFESS
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.

 

10.To My Friends Who Are............STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn't worth it. If he isn't worth it now he's not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now. Let go.....


11.TO ALL MY FRIENDS.......
My wish for you is a man/women whose love is honest, strong, mature , never-changing, uplifting, protective, encouraging, rewarding and unselfish.


Because, "Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud. Love does not demand it's own way, it's not irritable or touchy. So faith , hope and love remain, these three, the greatest of these is Love." 1 Cor. 13   

 

GOD IS LOVE!!!

Psalm for Guidance and Protection (Psalm 25)

This is one of the Bible Passages that I have cherished and prayed everyday during the difficult moments in life…..

 

To you, O Lord, I offer my prayer;

in You, my God, I trust.

Save me from the shame of defeat;

don’t let my enemies gloat over me!

Defeat does not come to those who trust in You,

but those who are quick to rebel against You.

 

Teach me Your ways, O Lord;

make them known to me.

Teach me to live according to Your truth,

for You are my God, who saves me.

I always TRUST  in YOU.

 

Remember, O Lord, Your kindness and constant love

which You have shown from long ago.

Forgive the sins and errors of my youth.

In Your constant love and goodness,

remember me, Lord!

 

Because the Lord is righteous and good,

He teaches sinners the path they should follow.

He leads the humble in the right way

and teaches them His will.

With faithfulness and love He leads

all who keep His covenant and obey His commands.

 

Keep Your promise, Lord, and

forgive my sins, for they are many.

Those who have reverence for the Lord

will learn from Him the path they should follow.

They will always be prosperous, and

their children will possess the land.

The Lord is the friend of those who obey Him

and He affirms His covenant with them.

 

I look to the Lord for help at all times,

and He rescues me from danger.

Turn to me, Lord, and be merciful to me,

because I am lonely and weak.

Relieve me of my worries

and save me from all my troubles.

Consider my distress and suffering

and forgive all my sins.

 

See how many enemies I have;

see how much they hate me.

Protect me and save me; keep me from defeat.

I come to You for safety.

May my goodness and honesty preserve me,

because I trust in you.

 

 

True Friendship...

True Friendship Has Many Ingredients

 

True friendship isn’t seen with the eyes;

it is felt with the heart when there is trust,

understanding, secrets, loyalty, and sharing.

 

Friendship is a feeling rarely found in life,

but when It is found it has a profound impact

on one’s well-being, strength, and character.

 

A true friendship does not need

elaborate gifts or spectacular events

in order to be valuable or valued.

 

To ensure long-lasting quality and satisfaction,

a friendship only needs certain key ingredients:

undying loyalty,

unmatched understanding,

unsurpassed trust,

deep and soulful secrets,

and endless sharing.

 

These ingredients, mixed with personality

and  a sense of humor,

can make friendship last a lifetime.

 

 

Sonya Williams

 

 

 

 

Broken Places

 

I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken -- and I'd rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived.


Margaret Mitchell

Friday, July 3, 2009

A Reminder When We're Having One of Those Days...

 


  
  
  
  
One thing you can't recycle is wasted time!